People have this idea that you can only be happy in a relationship
As if your life is meant to be spent with somebody else
And if you have failed to find that person you have failed in life itself
Dismissing the idea of growing on your own and being whole alone
Two parts don’t always make one, and love isn’t always eternal even with “the one”
Delusions about relationships solving loneliness is running rampant
People want to have someone around so they don’t have to be alone
It has nothing to do with the core values a relationship should be based on
I actually heard someone say “I’m just with them for this period in my life.”
Rendering their partner to mere “company” one can leave on a whim
Why are we congratulating people on finding a partner?
As if it is an accomplishment worth praising
As if we are so inherently flawed that finding someone to love us is a feat
We are creating a system where being alone is seen as sad
As if being single is a disease you might want to fix
But what if I don’t want company for just this period in my life?
What if I am actually ok with being alone and don’t just want someone around me?
What if I want someone around me that actually adds value to my life?
And people have these fantastic, amazing, miraculous theories about love
How having a partner will help you achieve your dreams, make you feel better about yourself
Building a future worth living in, making love instead of sex and having someone there for you
I’m sorry to break your bubble but all of that just isn’t true
Romanticizing love has led to the downfall of many possible great relationships
People love to think that love will make one stop being human and remove all flaws
I am single because I have found that people want to be with me for reasons that have nothing to do with me, I am sorry but I am not just a cure for feeling lonely
For me a relationship is a commitment I have found most aren’t able to live up to
The previous ones that tried showed me that love doesn’t protect you from reality
And people can still do the most horrible thing and tell you they love you afterwards
I am sorry, but I am single until I can find one who can convince me they are different
The screening process has proven to be too difficult for some
But I don’t care, I would rather stay single and happy
Then be in a relationship just so I have someone waiting for me
Love’s meaning has been twisted into having company